July 1

I have some thoughts on being a care giver. Because I will tell you these things that many people won't it does not mean I am angry or sad or depressed. It is what it is. There is no one who gets married to her love and says, Oh Boy, I can't wait until I can be a care giver. Just as learning to be a parent isn't offered as a degree in school, so it is that being a care giver is an on the job learning experience. The hard fact is that care giving takes a lot out of you. It doesn't diminish the love for your spouse, it changes it. You really are no longer a couple. You are together, but not really. The world centers and rises and sets on the taker. You become completely responsible for that person with no hope that it will change . It can only get worse, or even worse. This is a dead end journey. I hate the term journey. Journeys are supposed to be fun . You look forward to journeys. This is not a journey. It's an ending. It's a life on hold. It's the sickness and in health line.It is what it is. Remember , I am not depressed, angry or sad .I'm just saying.

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04.07 | 08:10

I read the last page first too. It’s a family curse.

22.05 | 08:38

so glad youre here mom!

29.08 | 13:45

Don't quite know how this got to me but it was on the top line of my computer (not in email) But I really enjoyed it. I truly admire you.

31.07 | 07:02

Leona, do you have a date or a booked flight that you come back ?

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