It happened too soon. It happened too quickly. He got sick. He didn't get well . I can remember my sister saying "I want ten years more"when my Mother died. But for my sister, it wasn't a spouse but our Mother who passed away. My sister was the care
taker. Her words meant that she wanted to live another ten years free from being a caretaker. That is what caretaking does to you. It makes you think differently about your life. My friend who just lost her husband is stronger than she knows. She has already
made tough decisions and they were the right ones. She has the memory of a happy life, not of the last years spent with the stress ,the weight of and ,yes,the resentment of caretaking. The lemons fall all around us. She doesn't understand yet, but she got
the gift of lemonade.