April 14

Our Rabbi this Friday spoke on what you shouldn't say when visiting a house of bereavement or some one who is ill. I can relate to that. I have my favorite " what not to say" sentence. It is "It was for the best". You might say that because it was the best for you , but maybe death wasn't an option for the family who just lost a loved one. I think people mean well when they say this, and I know I've thought it, but what I think that expression is saying is , I couldn't handle this sickness, or death, so for me to not have to even have this happen to a friend ,is better for me.Death and sickness are messy. I'll happen to everyone .The Rabbi's advice is ,don't say anything. Just be there. Be sorry. Say just that. Mean it .

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29.08 | 13:45

Don't quite know how this got to me but it was on the top line of my computer (not in email) But I really enjoyed it. I truly admire you.

31.07 | 07:02

Leona, do you have a date or a booked flight that you come back ?

20.07 | 13:55

Everything sounds so wonderful Leona. Venice will seem boring . I would want to move to Portownsend where the kids are living. All sounds great . Is there?

19.07 | 12:33

That lavender sounds very nice!

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